We need hormonal balance. When they aren’t balanced, we feel fatigued, moody, irritable, depressed, lose our libido and gain weight. And not only are we suffering from our hormonal imbalances but our partners and kids suffer too. Dr Libby has done an awesome TED Talk on this very issue here
Lisa Curry made a brave admission on A Current Affair last night, that she believed her undiagnosed Rushing Woman’s Syndrome, was a major contributing factor to the tension in her marriage to Grant Kenny and their eventual divorce. If you didn’t see it, here’s a video link
I have often pondered how many relationship breakdowns are due to undiagnosed hormonal imbalances in both women and men (men are also rushing and suffering from low testosterone as a result). If one partner is fatigued, the other has to pick up the slack which causes resentment. If one partner is moody or irritable, it can affect the couple’s intimacy and emotional connection. Mismatched libido’s are another cause of tension in relationships. These are all things that can be improved by balancing our hormones, and a great relationship counsellor 🙂
So how does “rushing” affect our hormones?
The answer lies with our adrenal glands. These are the glands that are responsible for pumping out our stress hormones, adrenaline and cortisol. To make these hormones, our body uses pregnalone which is also the same substance that it needs to make our sex hormones ie oestrogen, progesterone and testosterone.
It’s a survival mechanism too, because stress communicates to our cells that our lives are in danger, it’s not surprising that mother nature takes away our progesterone so we can’t get pregnant. The last thing a body’s wants to do is bring a baby into the world if its not safe. As a result, we become deficient in progesterone, which leads to oestrogen dominance, which leads to bad PMT, mood swings, bloating, weight gain, fatigue, thyroid imbalance, low libido and low mood. Our digestion also slows down under the influence of stress hormones so we can end up with bloating and irritable bowel syndrome. Did you know that progesterone has anti-anxiety and anti-depressant qualities? No wonder women feel anxious and overwhelmed premenstrually if their progesterone is low.
And this health problem not only effects women with kids. I am seeing a disturbing trend in women in their 20’s who have too much on their plate and are now suffering from adrenal fatigue and hormonal imbalances. It’s also a common picture I see in women who see me for fertility. The pace of modern life is certainly taking its toll on everyone.
Balancing hormones is my thing. It’s something that homeopathy can do really well. I am often amazed how quickly homeopathy can sort out hormonal stuff. Much quicker than herbs in my opinion, although in some cases, the combination of homeopathy and herbs is needed. If you can relate to this article, I recommend booking a consult with me.
In the meantime, make room for some self-care in your life. This can be a challenge because our culture conditions us to believe that we must be busy to survive and be a worthy person. Here are my top tips:
- Acknowledge that your self worth has got nothing to do with how much you do
- Be kind to yourself, our thoughts and unrealistic expectations of ourselves can trigger stress
- It’s okay to say no if someone asks you to do something. Really, really ask yourself if you can fit that in or will you have to burn the midnight oil and waste your precious weekend time to get it done? What is your reason for saying yes to something? Is it because you don’t want to let people down or you feel you need to please everyone. STOP RIGHT THERE. Because that is the number one cause of Rushing Woman’s Syndrome which will only result in exhaustion and unhappiness.
- Look for things that you can delegate or outsource to free up your time. You’ll be glad you did.
- Give yourself permission to schedule time to yourself. It’s important for disease prevention.
- Avoid time-wasting activities like social media (I struggle with this one).
- Ensure you go to bed before 11pm and get 7 hours sleep (I also struggle with this one).
- Allow 5-10 mins each day to either meditate to practice deep breathing as this helps to create a sense of calm within the body’s cells. It’s a proven tactic to support the adrenal glands in our crazy world.
- Eat well, avoid skipping meals. Fill up on natural fats as they are our hormones building blocks
- Make time to get a regular massage or acupuncture session or a relaxing hobby.
- Look at your life, is it all work and no play? If so, reduce your workload to make time for relaxation and some social time with friends and family. This is vital to help refill your energy cup and prevent burn-out.
And lastly, you are enough, you don’t need to busy to prove that you are valuable to the world.
Yours in health & happiness,